If you’ve ever been a wife and mother, I would be willing to bet you haven’t asked yourself…

What Would Life Be Like
If I Took Care Of ME First?

Imagine a Life Where YOU Came First – What a Concept!

Would you still be loved AND how would you feel about yourself… ?

A dear friend of mine in a moment of distress recently revealed to me:

“When someone needs me—my grandson or my mother, for example--I fly to the rescue and devote myself entirely to them…I end up spending all of my waking hours on their agenda, adapting to their schedule, almost forgetting how to be me.”

Dear “Sister” in the middle of life;

I hope you will forgive my familiarity…I just feel like I know who you are and what you’re dealing with.

If you’ve read my headline and have kept reading, then, I think you can guess what I mean when I call you “sister.” We may not be joined by blood, but we both live to serve the people that we love and who we usually put ahead of our own well-being.

I say that compassionately, of course, because the reason we do what we do is out of love, isn’t it? And, it’s really kind of expected--by everyone; our families, society. Really, the world at large expects us to put everyone else first.

And it seems to me that we never even question it. We probably wouldn’t think twice about first putting the oxygen masks on our kids in an airplane emergency--that would be our “normal” reaction: take care of others first. It would never occur to us to do anything else. THAT’S why they have to remind us every time we get on a plane to put our oxygen masks on ourselves first. Think about it…

And this…What is your first reaction as you drive down the street and have to stop short? I know mine is to shove my arm across the seat next to me to prevent whoever is sitting there from jerking forward and hurting themselves. A natural reaction, right? Never mind that I might be headed through the windshield. First reaction? Protect the passenger next to me!... (We are the generation that learned to drive when we didn’t have fast-working seatbelts, aren’t we?)

“Well,” you might ask, “so what?” Should that matter?

That’s a great question to ask…let’s take a look at it…

Probably, if you’re anything like me, you’re thoughtful, intelligent, and insightful enough to see that we are the result of all the experiences of our lives. More specifically, we’ve been influenced by our parents, our siblings, our family, our friends, our culture, society, the media, and so on from the time we were born.

Let’s face it. We’ve been bombarded with words that tell how to feel, what to think, what we want, who we are, what is good, what is right, what to buy, where to vacation, and what is possible…

Truly, after such extensive programming, there are not many of us who can claim that we have managed to maintain our uniqueness and individuality and that is truly at the heart of what I want to say here to you.

Why am I writing this?

I think if you know a little more about me, you will understand where I am going with this information…

When I was 37, I was about to begin my thesis research…I needed to fulfill my dissertation requirements for my doctoral degree.

What was I going to write about? What creative idea could I come up with? I racked my brain. I spent hours thinking about it…Finally, I knew.

And believe me, it was a shock. As devastating as it was to admit, when faced with the need to come up with an original and creative idea, I was totally stopped! No new ideas, no research to propose, nothing! I could think of not ONE SINGLE original or creative thing to write about.

I wonder if you can make the connection between what I said before and this upsetting revelation?

Here’s what I saw.

The Big “AHA!”

How could it be any other way? After all the massive programming in my life - the persistent message that others are more important, that I was not important, that it was my responsibility to take care of others, what happened to my genuine needs and feelings? What happened to my wants, desires and dreams?

And here’s the real connection, what happened to my creativity, inventiveness, and sensitivity to what I thought and felt? Who, after all is the real person inside – and how could I possibly know after the years of putting everyone else first?

NOW is the time to find out!

At midlife, AT LAST, each of us has the chance to discover what our lives started out to be.

That is the opportunity I am here to share with you

The true Gift of Midlife

“And there is empowerment in the realization that you are on the threshold of becoming the person you were born to be, a more authentic, deeply living, real human being.”
–Kathy Brehony, Jungian-oriented psychotherapist, Awakening at Midlife

A Short Story…

Let me tell you about a grandmother who spent her entire adult life taking care of her family. One day in her later years, she received the diagnosis of cancer. She began working with a psychologist who heard how much she had given to her family.

In therapy, she remembered something that she loved early in her life that she had given up “in service” to her family: she had loved opera. New light came into her life as she realized what a loss it was that she had given it up. When she allowed herself to spend time in something she truly adored, when she nurtured herself and returned to her love of opera, her life shifted and she truly began to live.

Another woman who was also diagnosed with cancer, a talented artist, disclosed to her therapist that she had held back on her talent because she didn’t want to undermine her husband’s confidence in his music career. She believed that if she expressed herself creatively and fully, it would destroy his fragile sense of self-esteem. So she chose to sacrifice herself, squelching her own potential and the life that was in her gifts…to die of cancer. She never experienced the joy that her own fulfillment could have brought to her.

Over a hundred and fifty years ago, suffragist Elizabeth Cady Stanton expressed this wisdom:

“Self -development is a higher duty than self-sacrifice. The thing which most retards and militates against women’s self-development is self-sacrifice.”

I share these stories with you not to frighten or upset you but in hopes that YOU will read them and realize that the time is NOW. Use these revelations as a Wake Up call for yourself –

It is time to INVEST IN YOU!

Invest in You! Is a book I wrote because I had just such an awakening and it has made such a difference in my life, I wanted to share it with others.

It was written as a guide to help you discover who you are. In it you will be

"Anne's words are timeless pearls of wisdom. This book is the perfect tool to help you listen deeply to your innermost whispers so that you can honor your true self and heed your highest calling. I will be recommending this book enthusiastically to my clients, colleagues and friends--anyone who is on a journey of self-discovery." – Mavis Tsai, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist, Seattle, WA

Invest in You! is based on your uniqueness. In it, you will be asked to find your own version of the truth and to experiment with new actions and perspectives. In other words, it guides you while giving you full responsibility for applying what you learn to your particular situation.

For example, it encourages you to ask yourself questions, so you uncover more of yourself. It is filled with exercises and stories to help you discover what is limiting you. You will be encouraged to make a commitment to yourself in a practical step-by-step way, so that you can create new habits and move in a new direction.

As you read INVEST IN YOU!--

“If you’re looking for a roadmap to yourself, this is it. No one has ever made this journey so available, so enticing as Invest in You. For the many years of study and self-examination it takes to be so clear, direct, and loving to help us find our way, Anne proves that she can take you where she has been with love and kindness. This work will help us all find what is missing. Say Yes to the invitation to know yourself more fully.”
–Jennifer Walker, Author, Napa, CA

At this point, you may be wondering what’s the difference with this and all the millions of how to books and programs about success, prosperity and personal development available…

Why should you choose Invest in You!?

As the author of Invest in You! I can tell you that in the last 25 years I have honed by skills as a psychologist-healer-life coach. During that time, my clients of diverse backgrounds as well as many teachers have provided me with a wide range of eclectic experience and training.

To state the point simply: Popular programs and books give you seemingly easy, cookie-cutter solutions. Unfortunately, these solutions cannot be implemented successfully unless you know yourself and your issues deeply. Until you actively practice awareness. And, until you have discovered how your mind, in particular, is creating what you do not like about your life; you cannot free yourself.

Remember, books and programs meant for a general audience cannot begin to address your specific personal situation. It is easy when studying self-help and self-growth material to forget that you are unique. You are so eager to take each prescribed steps and get results. But what works for someone else may not work for you.

It is important to remember that you know your history, issues, needs and dreams better than anyone else. As the expert of your life, YOU need to be in charge of the transitions in your life.

As my spiritual teacher, Cristhal Bennett, reminded me this week : “So for so long you have looked at other authority figures for guidance and wisdom. As much as you have believed in them, you must believe as much in your self…It is time to be fully the authority in your life.”

One word of caution. Invest in You! is not for the faint-hearted.

So, If you are ready to experience your life at a whole new level – If you are ready to take charge and find out what is truly possible for you in creating a whole new future, NOW Is right time for you to INVEST in YOU.

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During the first 4 weeks following your purchase of this e-book, you will have the opportunity to send me one email EVERY week, to which I will promptly respond. That’s right, because I understand that this time in your life will be one of incredible discovery AND because you may encounter things about which you have questions or want comments, I want to be there for you.

So I will be available to support you as you make shift into a new way of thinking. I will respond once a week for 4 weeks to your email questions or even if you just want to share with me what you are discovering, I will respond to that as well…

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Wishing you the very best for a promising future, I remain

Your partner in growth,
Anne

P.S. This can be your first step in overcoming then habit of always thinking of others first . Finally, give to YOU! Give yourself a gift of Invest in You! right now and begin changing your life, today.

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Take this first step. After all, it is one thing to say “yes, of course, I should invest in me.” it is another thing to DO IT. In this moment, put your words into action. By making this first investment, you have begun a new pattern of investing in you!

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