Have You Ever Felt Like A Deer… In The Headlights of Life?

The Road To The Future CAN Sometimes Be REALLY Scary…

But It Doesn’t Have To Be Like That!

Anne's loving, compassionate presence, inner spirit, gentle soul and passion for life have been an inspiring change agent for me.  She has helped me to learn to listen to myself and to acknowledge my needs.  Anne has empowered me to believe in my potential.
– Colleen M., CA

Dear Midlife Journeyer;

Imagine if you can, driving down an unfamiliar road at night…

You’re somewhat fearful because you don’t know the neighborhood. You’re hesitant and cautious and unsure of what’s around the next curve.

Most of the time you’re confident that if you continue down the road and pursue your destination, you will find comfort and joy at the end. You began the journey in daylight, certain that you would find your way.

Now that the day is growing short and the light is beginning to fade, the road is not so clear ahead and darkness is looming. You notice you are beginning to doubt your decisions and even the direction you have taken.

You are afraid, trying not to panic--unsure that your judgment will stand you in good stead, unsure that the map you read and the directions you took to get you this far are the right ones to take you forward safely.

Stop for a moment. Take a deep breath and do something for me.

Glance over shoulder. Picture someone – a friend, a confidante, a companion, a navigator sharing your journey – a guide, helping you define the road ahead.

She’s reading the road signs in advance before you come up to them and listening to your concerns, while helping you clarify your options and their consequences.

If you’ve ever taken a drive somewhere unknown, you understand the difference it makes to have such a person with you--alerting you about the signs along the way, checking your map, reassuring you, and keeping you awake to what is going on around you. It can make all the difference in the world between a successful straightforward journey and a stressful fear-filled experience.

That kind of partnership is one that adds immeasurably to feeling safe and reassured on a trip AND to the fulfillment at the end of the journey.

What I’ve just described to you is what a good coaching relationship is ACTUALLY like – truly a gift in what millions have found to be a challenging Midlife journey.

The Benefits of Life Coaching

That’s right--Life coaching is seen by millions of women every day in this way.

It’s like this…

There is very little doubt that you can take a trip alone…and you COULD struggle through it and find your way in the dark. We all can. But, the real question is why would you?

Think about it – why would you (or anyone else) want to struggle on your own, fear making you your own worst enemy, causing you to run into roadblocks or dead-end roads, hoping against hope that what you are doing is the best thing for you? Especially, when…

It doesn’t have to be that way!

Hello . My name is Anne Uemura and I’d like to take just a minute here to tell you a story about a young woman I saw 20 years ago, when she was a university student. We’ll call her Daniela.

She contacted me about a year and a half ago with midlife issues about work, family and sense of self. In all areas of her life, she was doing “fine.” Yes, there were a few concerns she had that led her to return to me. But otherwise, she reported that she was happily married, her family of 3 children was doing well and her career was enviable.

Yet, as Daniela had the time and space to look at her life more honestly and openly, it became clear that she was barely on top of everything she needed to manage. In reflecting on her chaotic workdays, stressful schedule, her avoidance of client conferences and project deadlines, she discovered many things. Among them, a fear of failure, fear of not having what it took to get the job done right, and finally, her negativity--being able to only see the glass as half empty never half full, always expecting the worst. Not surprising was the fact that she felt a complete sense of being overwhelmed.

After our work together, Daniela reported an enormous change in her life and her comfort about the projects she had. She found, for the very first time, she had prepared a major report, days before it was due. When she realized that she had been allowing her responsibilities to run her into the ground, she started incorporating some self-care. One element was becoming clear about what was her responsibility and what wasn’t, in relationship to her husband. She also re-discovered her love of swimming from which she gained a sense of aliveness and joy.

Before she saw herself somewhat hesitant about leadership responsibilities and after our work together, she began to move naturally and comfortably as a leader in her community and as a “guru” with her clients.

Some people tell me that coaching sounds like “magic” or hocus pocus. That “talking with someone”--their words for “coaching”--couldn’t possibly make that kind of difference.

However, I think as you read the words of my clients, you will begin to grasp just how valuable this kind of work can be and how coaching relationships can begin to truly shift a person’s world.

“Anne’s exquisite clarity and wonderful insights are unlike any form of coaching available. Her loving support has enabled me to achieve a deeper, more satisfying life…sessions with her have to be one of the most valuable and worthwhile investments I have ever made.” – Angela P., CA

 

My Coach Told Me,
“ Two Way Communication REALLY Works”
& Then - She Proved It Was TRUE!

Like many intelligent people, you and others like you have been reading articles and books, listening to lectures and watching DVDs, hoping to get the kind of insights into Midlife issues that would bring you clarity. There is only one thing wrong with that strategy…

When you read books and watch DVDs, you are not involved in a two-way conversation and THAT’S where REAL learning takes place!

Reading self-help books and re-circulating information inside your own head can lead you down the road to a very DARK place. Old messages, old stories, old belief systems are lurking there…and you can’t even SEE them because they are so much a part of your history.

“How-to” books and resources like that are meant to provide you with helpful stories, insights and information. However, what affects you, how you are affected, what you do in your particular personal situation may not be addressed in these materials.

Think about how real life works…

Remember the story about driving at night down an unfamiliar road? Never mind the idea of doing it alone. What would it be like to have someone talking AT you the whole time: Talking about what they think, about how they would drive, where they would go and sharing their suggestions and telling you what their story is? It would become annoying at best and probably be pretty unhelpful in getting you where YOU wanted to go. .

Ask yourself, when is it your time to tell your story, to talk about how do you feel and what puzzles you? In your busy life, you may not have anyone to talk with about your midlife issues and your emotional experiences in a satisfying way; knowing that they are interested--focused on YOUR needs and allowing you to share your fears, concerns, hopes and dreams AND who can give you competent, PERSONAL coaching?

A professional woman in her 40s came to me recently with concerns about her marriage and her work. I’ll call her Louise.

She viewed her move to this location as a mistake because nothing had gone right since their move and their purchase of a home that required remodeling.

Louise’s marriage especially seemed in jeopardy as family disagreements flared, ignited by differing views on how and what was being done to their home. She began to see that she needed someone besides her husband to voice her concerns since talking to him just exacerbated the upsets.

After we worked together for a while, it became clear to her that she needed to find new ways of approaching her husband and finally, to asking him if he was committed to the marriage. Louise was able to see that fear and uncertainty had kept her stuck and her communication was an attempt to control him. When she saw things in a different light, she was freed from her destructive patterns and could make other choices. Her courage and change also freed her husband.

More and more people are finding that Life coaching provides them with the opportunity to talk about life situations honestly without fear that the listener has her own agenda. In such honesty, we are often able to see clearly what we had not time or courage to see before.

The curiosity and questioning that a coach brings to your conversations can help you to see deeper into your ways of coping and of communicating, of looking at your worries, fears, wishes, and longings so that you begin to know your own heart. Like Louise, you then have the choice of taking care of what really matters to you. You drop below the surface to the truth.

So, at this point you might be asking “How do I take a possibly radical step of trying something new like this?”

First, take a little “self test”…ask yourself

When you ask yourself these questions, you can see that having someone on your side, someone with experience in dealing with these issues, who could be there for you, could make a difference…what do YOU think is the next step?

Take the FIRST step…

You’re someone who gets things done – so, it’s time now to use what you know about what works. That is, take the first step and talk to me about what is possible with one-on-one, personal, Life-Coaching.

Schedule your first contact – I invite you to “Take it on.” There is so much to gain and NOTHING to lose.

Some of the Gifts of life coaching:

This truly is your opportunity to create a whole new life if that is what you choose to do!

What will you experience as you begin to build those NEW habits?

You will find as we work together, that you can choose to change your perspective, to gain a different sense of yourself, to see what more you want in your life and to consistently practice actions that support your movement forward: This is an important undertaking, a significant change

…and that’s what Life Coaching is all about!

What is the experience like and how is it done?

Imagine this: You are sitting with someone who is paying complete attention to you--it will either be in person or over the phone. There will be total focus on your emotions, obvious or subtle. You may be asked how comfortable you are with them and what they tell you.

You may be asked to articulate your beliefs and your attitudes about certain things and whether they serve you.

Often, since you will be speaking from inside your own perspective, it is difficult for you to get a clear picture of what is actually happening. Perspectives from the outside will be proposed to help you get a different and energizing point of view. You will see things in a new way and as a result you will be freed from your stuck-ness.

You may be asked to take action to change how you go through your daily life. Coaching holds you accountable to your commitments.

As your Life Coach, I will be attuned to your best self, your unexpressed self, and your fullest potential. You will become more aware and have the chance to make better choices.

“Working with Anne has changed my life forever. She’s helped me to start seeing new ways and options to be happy and enjoy every minute of this wonderful experience called life. Before her, I was in therapy with four persons in different countries and nothing was even close to all the help I have received from Anne.”
– Maria A., Bay Area, CA
“When you have done all the things you can think of to make your life move in the way you want and it is not working as well as you would like, you might like to try what I did. Anne led me to some very deep and profound connections that were blocking my progress and accompanied me in finding a way to use those connections to help everyday. The experience was so profound that it will impact all areas of my life.”
Ann E., Olympia, WA

The Time to begin your journey is NOW!

As I said earlier, you ARE fully capable of driving down that road by yourself.

No doubt about it – YOU are a competent human being.

It is about not HAVING to do it alone. It is about having an experienced, attentive, guide-coach to accompany you.

Now’s the time: Find out if Life Coaching is for you. As I said earlier, you have everything to gain and nothing to lose. All my work is guaranteed.

Respond to Life’s invitation by clicking below and checking out what is possible for you today in Life Coaching. When I receive your information, I will call you to follow up with a conversation about Life Coaching and what it can provide specifically for you.

I am ready, Anne – Contact me right away!

I invite you to invest the time to find out exactly where you are and how your beliefs and expectations got you here. Learn what resources and tools you need to move from where you are now to designing the best possible life you can imagine for yourself.

I think Marianne Williamson may have said it best when she said…

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

Excerpt from Return to Love

Say “Yes, count me in.

I want to be more. I want to mine for the treasures in me.”

Are you ready to discover who you really are and step into your true larger self? It would please me to walk with you on this journey. 

I am ready, Anne – Contact me right away!

Respectfully yours,
Anne

P.S. I urge you to take action now. Too often we allow thoughts from the past and concerns about knowing all the answers prevent us from finding out the straightest path to success. Allow me to support and guide you as you create the life of your dreams.

P.P.S. BONUS for acting quickly, available for a limited time--Because I know the difference that Life coaching could make in your life, I am prepared to offer you one FREE session so that you can experience exactly what I am talking about when I say this can change your life. 

Click on the link below and fill out the information in the form, and I will contact you for your complimentary Life coaching session.  I promise you will have a real sense of what is possible out of our conversation.  .Also you may have a friend who would find Life Coaching of value.  Please feel free to forward my website address to them.

Whether you choose to contact me or not, I wish you the best in your life's journey and thank you again for visiting my site. 

Contact me, Anne – I am ready to find out about the difference your Life Coaching can make for me…